The Lexicon

The Third Space is the interval between inner recognition and response.

Inner deadness describes the erosion of inner aliveness in an otherwise functioning life.

Ghost future refers to the imagined future once regarded as inevitable, but that will not happen due to a life change.

Identity grief describes the mourning of a self-story that no longer fits.

Moral inheritance refers to inherited beliefs about marriage, endurance, sacrifice, virtue, etc.

The Script is the culturally supplied storyline for how a life is supposed to unfold.

Moral accounting refers to the internal checklist used to determine whether one has "earned" the right to behave authentically.

A discounted truth is something you know clearly but don’t treat as enough to act on.

Self-erasure describes the gradual shrinking of self to preserve harmony.

Role-violation guilt is guilt triggered by breaking from an expected identity/role.

Conscience wound is pain that arises when following one’s conscience causes suffering for a loved one.

Support selectivity describes when others continue only to support certain aspects of who you are, while withholding support in others.

Lens mobility refers to the process of moving between interpretive frames.

Containment is (1) Finishing forming truth internally before speaking externally; (2) Resisting the urge to soften, explain, renegotiate, or emotionally manage other people’s reactions after speaking truth

A completed marriage is simply a marriage understood to be finished rather than failed.

Ritual gap refers to a period when an occasion remains but the ritual that once acknowledged it has vanished.